tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694040304727321463.post5417193557964112933..comments2023-11-02T06:58:54.782-04:00Comments on Dissection and Introspection: There's More to Life Than MarriageMediaMavenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12548519999729515206noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694040304727321463.post-61328727872339341492009-10-28T17:52:55.453-04:002009-10-28T17:52:55.453-04:00I think the point of the Shriver Report was more t...I think the point of the Shriver Report was more to tell business and government to wake the hell up already and get moving on making lives easier for families. It's not news to you and me that 49.9% of women work and married women with families are stressed the hell out, because we see it everyday. The way I saw it was Shriver and CAP got together to put together something "official" so the powers that be will actually do something about it- like flex time, subsidized child care, and national child care standards. <br /><br />You're right- the marriage question would never come up to a man. Can you imagine if Arnold did this report and was on with Sawyer? "So, Governator, do you think that men can be fulfilled with just a career, and not a wife?" Please. <br /><br />Anyway, I am surprisingly optimistic about this report. None of it was news (women do the majority of the housework? You don't say!) but I am hopeful that someone- Obama, the Top Ten CEO's- will read it and say, "well maybe we should help these families out a bit, huh? Sounds like they are having a shitty time out there."Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01233884811870938830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694040304727321463.post-43282771398208361922009-10-28T15:47:35.101-04:002009-10-28T15:47:35.101-04:00Yeah. In my experience, if a guy responds negative...Yeah. In my experience, if a guy responds negatively when he's asked whether he'll get married, the inevitable response is, "Oh, don't be silly. Of course you will." <br /><br />It's usually taken for granted that guys will get married. In fact, when an older man isn't wearing a wedding ring, people often <i>immediately</i> assume that he's gay. <br /><br />I think most of us are probably guilty of this kind of stereotying. When you reach a certain age, everyone just seems to think there's something <i>wrong</i> with you if you haven't "settled down" with another person.mikhailbakuninhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13158822054353654203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694040304727321463.post-82868805886596923982009-10-28T12:11:38.957-04:002009-10-28T12:11:38.957-04:00It tends to be taken as a certainty that men will ...It tends to be taken as a certainty that men will get married. After all, they have that default life-plan checklist that is used to measure their worth at each key stage of life: Go to school, fall in love, get a job, get married, get promoted, have a kid, buy a house in the suburbs, have another kid, get a dog, have another .3 kids, get a riding lawnmower.<br /><br />If a man doesn't plan to get married at all, it means he's one of two things: Intensely desirable and unwilling to give up his revolving-door bedroom (and/or half of his vast fortune,) or intensely undesirable and unable to attract a wife.Johnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14569180426066178711noreply@blogger.com